Do you tend to clam up when you see a cute guy and you'd like to stop being so shy around guys? Does it drive you crazy how you can talk and talk with your friends, but with guys nothing intelligent ever comes out? Is this so crippling that you don't even try anymore because you always end up looking foolish? There is a way to counter your sudden bouts of shyness. Read this article to see what you can do.
Try to understand why you're shy around guys to begin with. Chances are you feel slightly insecure in front of guys and you're probably putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Women who've been shot down too many times can often come to neglect themselves because they feel it's hopeless, and when they do spot a cute guy, they then stress out to try to impress him.
So why not start with ensuring that you look great every time you step out. Take a few moments to put a flattering look together and try something new with your hair and make up. This will boost your confidence and you won't doubt yourself so much when you come face to face with that cute guy.
As for the pressure you put on yourself, try not to think of what will come of your encounter with him. If you enter this with a do or die attitude, the stress factor will go way up. When we want a guy too much, our every word can come to have such importance and hold such weight that it virtually paralyzes us. But if you can relax, approach him as a friend and ignore what the future might bring, you'll just let it all flow out in an easier manner.
This will also put the guy at ease and he'll be more comfortable around you. Sometimes all you have to say are a few small statements or ask a few questions and he'll take the lead and keep the conversation going. This will give you added time to relax and talk to that cute guy without going crazy about it.
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